Australians spend millions of dollars on Valentine’s
Day presents each year, but our partner Smiling Mind want you to ditch the
flowers and spend time on your own wellbeing instead.
This Valentine’s Day, Smiling Mind are
encouraging Australians to spend more time on practicing self-love following
the launch of their free relationships app-based program supported by nib
The program provides a series of mindfulness
mediations and activities that will help Australians build positive relationships
at work, home, with friends, and most importantly, with oneself.
Despite popular opinion that self-love is selfish, Smiling Mind’s CEO Addie
Wootten said that self-love is in fact very different to being selfish and
having a good relationship with oneself provides a healthy foundation for
positive relationships with others.
“For many Australians, it’s often far easier to
feel compassion for someone we are close to than for ourselves. We are very
good at being judgmental of ourselves and our imperfections and Valentine’s Day
can really highlight this for many of us,” Dr Wootten said.
“Our new mediations will help us be mindful of
this, so we can begin to better accept what we might consider weaknesses as
well as our strengths and grow this appreciation through cultivating
self-compassion and self-acceptance. The benefits are many including increased
self-esteem and mood, as well as better relationships with others - including
improving your sex life!” she added.
To get you started, Smiling Mind have put
together the following tips on ‘How to practice self-love this Valentine’s
mindfulness: a big part of self-love is having an awareness of our thoughts
and emotions which will allow us to act in ways that support our wellbeing
rather than always meeting the needs of others.
self-talk: Our brain is wired to focus on the negative and many of us fall
into the trap of focusing on the things that didn’t go right. We’re often our
own worst critic. Training our brain to focus on a balance of what we did well
as well as the things that didn’t go so well is really important in fostering self-love
your needs not just your wants: self-love involves the occasional
trade-off between wants and needs. There may be things you want, but self-love
helps us tune into what we really need e.g. things that are exciting and feel
good, but what you might actually need is to do something that helps you to
feel centred and focused.
yourself through healthy activities, such as, a healthy diet, exercise, a good
night’s sleep, and quality time spent with friends.
boundaries: learn how say no to work or other activities that deplete you
physically or emotionally and aren’t aligned with the person you want to be.
You can find the relationships mindfulness program under ‘Adult Programs’
on the Smiling Mind
app here. Take
ten minutes to try it out today!